Going unnoticed is fairly difficult if you are a wedding photographer at a wedding, however that is precisely the comments I get from many of my clients. “I cannot believe you got that shot! I don’t even remember you being there.” “Wow! how did you catch that!?? I totally remember that!” “You captured so many moments and I felt like I never saw you.” These are my compliments, and I thank my clients for giving them to me.
Every photographer has a different approach. I grew up going to too many weddings where all the focus was on the photographer. It seemed like they were parading around saying “Look at me! I’m the guy with the big camera. I’m the one in charge.” I honestly do not know what that is all about, and to tell you the truth, maybe I just ended up at a lot of weddings where the photographer was a dork. 😛 So, here I am, many years later, trying my hardest not to interrupt the party but to capture everything I possibly can so my clients can re-live the true emotion they were feeling on such an important day.
Here is what I do: Shoot as if you are invisible. Seriously. Think about it. If you were invisible and you KNEW no one could see you, you would never look anyone in the eye nor would you ever make any contact with them verbally. When I am looking through my lens, I know people are aware of my camera and so they stiffen up. If I pan around and look past them, they will think “Oh, she is not looking at me.” and they will continue on more relaxed. If I then decide to take the photo, I do so and then take my camera away from my face while looking at someone totally different. Even if they think you took the photo of them they will disregard that thought the moment they see you not looking at them after you take the photo. That moment will be forgotten instantly. You may have caught a great shot of them laughing in conversation and they will never remember you there. When they see the photo they will think you are a magician.